Christina is a sugar baby, and a college student working on getting her MBA in business from Michigan State University.
To understand what one of these partnerships looks like, Business Insider spoke with Christina, a 29-year-old Sugar Baby who lives in Las Vegas.
Currently an online MBA student at Michigan State University, Christina turned to SeekingArrangement.com a few years ago for help with college costs after her uncle, who previously paid for her education, passed away.
“That was when it finally set in and I was looking at the prices and I was looking at how much debt I was getting in and I had already started my MBA,” said Christina, who received her first bachelor’s degree in fashion design and merchandising, and at the time was in the middle of earning her second bachelor’s in political science and pre-law from Oakland University. “I was like, I can’t afford this, I’m going to be paying this off for years and years and years.”
It’s interesting to note that the interview Business Insider did with a random sugar baby happens to perfectly align with the new marketing campaign recently launched by Seeking Arrangements for Sugar Baby University.
But, back to our story. Christina shares that she went to Seeking Arrangements to find a man to replace the role her recently deceased uncle played. Which, yes, does sound bad.
Christian claims her girlfriends introduced her to Seeking Arrangements.
So she posted a few bikini photos such as this and she was off!
SeekingArrangement.com and encouraged her to find a Sugar Daddy to foot the bill. With education as her priority, Christina thought she’d probably be different than the typical Sugar Baby who was after expensive gifts and cash, she said.
“One of the very first messages that pretty much everyone sends, on either side, is ‘What are you looking for?’ because we want to make sure we’re on the same page,” Christina explained.
Christina says she isn’t willing to have sex for money, though she knows some sugar babies who do.
That last sentence above is questionable, as she goes on to describe how she is not into one night stands. Having one night stands really has nothing to do with satisfying the regular rotation of daddies. But, being as this is a hard-hitting piece of journalism, not a disgusting marketing promo for Seeking Arrangements aiming to convince young college-aged girls to dip their toes into the waters of prostitution, I’m sure she is telling the truth about her purity.
“I’m not a person that is interested in one-night stands with people who are visiting Vegas for a couple days — that’s not interesting to me. If that’s what you’re going to come at me with, my response is going to be, thank you for the offer, but I’m going to pass,” she said.”On my profile it specifically says, I’m going to school for this, this is what I’m looking for, I would like help paying for my school and my books,” Christina said. That’s the kind of straightforwardness and honesty that’s expected of all users on the site, she says.
Even so, there have been situations where Christina will agree to dinner under her terms and still get propositioned for sex. She’s learned “the site isn’t foolproof,” she says. “You have to stand your ground, you need to have a backbone.”
Christina then goes on to discuss her regular rotation of daddies, and makes a rather odd admission that generates many questions.
Over the past couple of years, Christina says there have been three consistent Sugar Daddies in her life who have helped her pay for school.
The Sugar Daddies plan and pay for expensive weekend trips too. Courtesy of Christina
The men, at least one of whom is married with children, will ask how much she owes for school and write her a check. In total, Christina estimates she’s been given “at least $90,000” from these men and others to pay for tuition, books, labs, and other education-related costs.
What are your moral guidelines anyways to begin with if you’re willing to entertain married men for money? The report brushes over this fact like it is nothing, just another obvious boring little tidbit. Most men on these types of sites are married, and want a pretty young mistress on the side that they can keep under control through her need or love of money.
I don’t judge Christina for her actions on a personal level, I don’t judge anyone, and I am almost shocked reading over the rest of the piece in conclusion how hard I came out swinging against these types of arrangements. But, I firmly believe these types of arrangements do not leave women feeling good about themselves or empowered.
I know women who’ve worked in similar positions, I think what happens is a lot of times they start in a fleeting moment of desperation, upon which after they immediately feel irreconcilably compromised, then in a predictable circular cycle of human psychology they double down, rationalize it, and suppress all emotion or guilt aside in a state of controlled numbness.
Which again, I would have zero objection to, IF I knew these women truly felt they were living life to the fullest and happy. Which, I’ve never seen to be the case in these types of situations.
On the reverse side, it likely seems completely different to men. I could see how from their perspective they’re are giving these young ladies the dream – the ability to do whatever they want and be desired. In many ways, girls are very lucky in that department.
Furthermore, I’m not a man, I don’t claim to have any authoritative clue as to how they think, but wouldn’t it seem empty in a way to know these young ladies were only giving you the time of day because of your money?
I’m sure that in their minds paid for sex is better than no sex BUT isn’t that also encouraging these men to sell themselves a little bit short?
That is just sad on a completely different level. You’re not truly desired if you can’t ever get anywhere without your pocketbook.
Even Christina admits to as much as the end of the report,
“I’ve had to struggle with the negative attachment that comes along with being on the site, or saying that you have a Sugar Daddy, it’s difficult to have people hear a word and automatically think negative about you, but at the same time, I have to push that stuff out of my mind,” she continued.
For her, it is all worth it if she rationalizes because she will graduate without debt.
“I’m fortunate enough to, hopefully when I’m completely finished with school, to say, I have no student loans, I have no debt at all, that is going to be the easiest part [of this experience] for me,” Christina said.
She then goes on to gush over how easy it is to be a sugar baby for the grand promotional report finale.
“It was difficult at the beginning to be like, OK I’m getting handed this money for doing really nothing, I’m literally just going to dinner, it was difficult to understand at the beginning,” Christina said.
Now, she values the relationships she’s formed and is happy with the way she’s presented herself to Sugar Daddies, as someone who can have an intellectual dinner conversation and has goals she’s working toward.
Because right, as every young woman knows, nothing is easier for a 20-year- old girl to do then a 68-year-old grandpa trying to act cool enough to buy his way into her pants…. Okay.
People need to stop being so obsessed with money and social status, and just be with whoever they want to regardless of other factors such as money or age, as long as both parties are adults.
And it’s hard to see how such behaviors (i.e being a sugar baby or daddy) aren’t going to affect these individuals abilities later on down the road to find good, solid, respectable relationships.
Yeah, it might be nice she doesn’t have college debt, but how many other men did she tend to get there?
Nothing screams marriage or relationship material like prostitution.
Source: Business Insider
Seems like some girls like the word